Trina Gray discusses the importance of selectively choosing who has a voice in your life. She emphasizes reserving voices for trusted individuals who value your opinion and perspective. Trina shares a personal story from 2019 about discovering a book that inspired her to reflect on this concept. She introduces a visual tool: an outer circle for people who have a place in your life, a middle circle for those who have a voice, and an inner circle for those who have a vote in your life’s decisions. Trina encourages listeners to identify and communicate with these key individuals to live a calmer, more confident life.

“The quality of your life depends on the quality of voices you allow in.”- Trina Gray

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Deciding Where People Fit into Your Life

• Trina Gray introduces the podcast, emphasizing its focus on helping listeners live a calm and confident life.
• Trina shares her background as a former journalist and fitness instructor turned entrepreneur.
• The podcast aims to provide stories and lessons for personal and professional growth.
• Trina thanks listeners who have left five-star reviews, highlighting their positive feedback.

The Importance of Selective Voices

• Trina discusses the concept of deciding where people fit into one’s life.
• She shares a personal story about a book she found in a Barnes & Noble bookstore that inspired her to think about who has a voice in her life.
• Trina emphasizes the importance of reserving voices in one’s life to trusted individuals.
• She introduces the idea of a “constellation of advisors” to describe the selective group of people whose opinions matter.

Visualizing the Concept: Place, Voice, Vote

• Trina explains the visual representation of the concept: people who have a place in one’s life, those who have a voice, and those who have a vote.
• She describes the outer circle as people who have a place in one’s life by choice or circumstance.
• The middle circle represents people who have a voice in one’s life, based on trust and the value of their opinions.
• The innermost circle includes people who have a vote in one’s life, such as significant others, children, and close friends.

Applying the Lesson to Real Life

• Trina encourages listeners to apply the lesson to their own lives, identifying who has a place, voice, or vote.
• She discusses the importance of setting boundaries and being selective about who has a voice in one’s life.
• Trina shares personal anecdotes about how she has applied this lesson in her own life.
• She emphasizes the need to value one’s own voice and make informed decisions based on personal beliefs and values.

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