Trina Gray discusses the importance of responding effectively when things go wrong in life. She emphasizes the need to give oneself grace, feel emotions, and use healthy coping mechanisms like walking, meditating, or journaling. Gray introduces a three-step framework: first, take care of oneself; second, plan a thoughtful response; and third, move on. She shares personal anecdotes, such as missing a hotel booking and an employee oversleeping, to illustrate common mishaps. Gray advises against holding onto anger or resentment, as it negatively impacts one’s well-being and those around them. She encourages listeners to proactively manage situations and focus on growth and fulfillment.

“When you hold on to the thing that went wrong, your arms get heavy.” – Trina Gray

TOPICS:

Discussion on Roles in Life

• Trina addresses a question from Darla about Episode Three on roles in life, sharing her own experience of having too many roles and the advice received at a conference.
• The presenter at the conference advised that having more than five or six roles likely means one is not good at any of them, leading to a realization for Trina.
• Darla’s question about feeling unfulfilled when having fewer roles is discussed, with Trina emphasizing the importance of having a balance of roles to avoid feeling untethered.
• Trina encourages listeners to think about their roles and consider adding new ones if they feel unfulfilled, using Darla’s example of adding “friend” to her list.

Examples of Things Going Wrong

• Trina provides various examples of things that can go wrong in life, such as running over a nail, backing into a garage door, double booking appointments, and missing deadlines.
• She shares personal experiences, like forgetting to book a hotel for her daughter’s graduation and having to resort to an expensive Airbnb.
• Trina discusses the impact of missed shifts at her workplace and the ripple effect it has on other employees and members.
• She emphasizes that everyone deals with things going wrong, regardless of their age or profession, and introduces her three-step framework for handling such situations.

Three-Step Framework for Handling Mistakes

• Step one: Take care of you. Trina advises feeling the feelings of frustration, annoyance, or anger and finding healthy ways to process them, such as walking, meditating, or journaling.
• Step two: Take care of the situation. Trina emphasizes the importance of planning a response rather than reacting impulsively, and communicating effectively to resolve the issue.
• Step three: Move on. Trina explains that moving on means addressing the situation, responding maturely, and then letting go, to avoid holding on to anger or resentment.
• She encourages listeners to apply this framework to their own lives, emphasizing that their day, life, and health deserve better than holding on to negative emotions.

Connect with Trina:

Instagram | LinkedIn | Website