Trina Gray discusses the importance of setting standards for oneself rather than comparing or competing with others. She emphasizes the need to focus on personal growth and ambition, sharing her own journey from a journalist to an entrepreneur. Trina highlights key lessons from her podcast, including “Set things down,” “Own your time,” and “Thrive where you are planted.” She recounts a personal story about her son’s transition to the Coast Guard, illustrating the coexistence of sadness and pride. Trina also stresses the value of clear communication, gratitude, and avoiding competition. She encourages listeners to set their own standards and reduce expectations of others.

“The standards I set for myself matter more than the expectations I have of others.” – Trina Gray

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Recap of Previous Episodes

• Episode 1: Set things down
• Episode 2: Own your time
• Episode 3: Your roles in life
• Episode 4: Things look different
• Episode 5: When things go wrong
• Episode 6: Save your battery
• Episode 7: Where people fit into your life
• Episode 8: Thrive where you are planted
• Episode 9: Pick a lane
• Episode 10: Standards for yourself

Personal Story and Emotional Journey

• Trina shares a personal story about her son attending a Coast Guard school in Virginia, highlighting the emotional journey of letting go and being proud.
• She emphasizes the importance of making space for both sadness and happiness when going through transitional life stages.
• Trina encourages listeners to recognize and celebrate their progress in the podcast series.
• She invites listeners to connect with her on Instagram or her website to share their achievements.

Lesson on Standards for Yourself

• Trina introduces the main topic of the episode: standards for yourself and fewer expectations for others.
• She shares a story from a mastermind meeting in Napa Valley where the concept of having fewer expectations for others was discussed.
• Trina explains the importance of letting people be themselves and focusing on personal standards.
• She provides examples of how to apply this lesson in various aspects of life, including business, family, and personal growth.

Applying the Lesson in Daily Life

• Trina discusses the importance of setting standards for oneself and not attaching unnecessary expectations to others.
• She provides examples of workplace and household expectations that are reasonable and necessary.
• Trina emphasizes the need to focus on personal growth and not compare oneself to others.
• She shares her own standards for herself, such as showing up calm and confident, communicating clearly, and living grateful.

Resources:

• Mel Robbin’s Let them Theory – A life-changing tool millions of people can’t stop talking about. The Let Them Theory is a step-by-step guide on how to stop letting other people’s opinions, drama, and judgment impact your life. Two simple words, Let Them, will set you free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. It’s time to build a life where you come first—your dreams, your goals, your happiness.
• Brendon Burchard’s GrowthDay – Your new daily practice for personal growth! Join 300,000 achievers from around the world who use GrowthDay to stay motivated, confident, and productive as they become their best selves. 

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If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to reflect on your own standards—what do they look like? How are they helping (or hurting) your growth?

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